Thursday, April 22, 2010

Children are such a blessing!

I love all my children so much! It's amazing how there will always be enough love to share, no matter how many kids there is! I have 6 of them, so I should know.

The older three already live life on their own, so they're not around every day. Nadia has a family on her own. Amira is getting married this summer, and Samuli.. He just doesn't feel like hanging around with his mom anymore. .But the younger three! They are hanging on my leg.. 24/7! And I don't know what I would do without them! Who would I be?

MashaAllah Donjana is the first child i had together with dh, so in a way iI started from the beginning when i had her. Samuli was already 8 that time, so they had a big age difference too. Before i got pregnant with her i had a miscarriage, so me and dh were feeling so blessed when we had that lovely little baby girl!

I enjoyed Donjana's baby time sooooo much..
My older kids were helping me a lot so I could spend hours alone with her, feeding her, playing with her, telling her stories or singing to her. . I think that's why we've always been so close. She learned pretty soon that she is special, I think she took everything out of being the baby of the family.. And I'm happy that she did. After all, she was the youngest one only for 2 years and 2 months.

Donjana has a hot temper, but she was never too difficult alhamdulilah. Now she is already at school, on the first grade. MashaAllah she is a good student. Often she tells me when some other pupil has been disturbing the class or kids have been teasing someone or such, and then she says: but mom, I was just nicely sitting by my desk, I don't do those things. And she loves her Arabic and Islamic lessons. Alhamdulilah they have them at school. She loves reading too, and often reads her 'Children book of Islam'. MashaAllah mashaAllah she is a lovely girl.

So, then came Deena. Already the pregnancy caused more problems to me than my other pregnancies, so I was expecting her to be all FIRE! And she is. MashaAllah she is hot tempered, but she calms down easily too. This was quite clear to the whole family since Deena was born.

That night when she was born I was quite weak. I had lost some blood and they told me to stay in bed. I had Deena next to me. It was a private room, so there was no other company. Not that I needed that anyway! And something amazing happened. She gave me a biiiig smile, just like that! I tell you sisters, it wasn't just her face movements from pain in stomach, like many people have said. She smiled! I know it! Even her eyes were smiling! For a moment I thought she wants to say something. She looked like she knows so much more than me! MashaAllah my beautiful little girl!

Her temper was so funny.. When normally baby wakes up in the night, she first makes some smaller noises and later cries. But Deena.. She woke up screaming! No warnings beforehand. Hehe.. It was cute, but sometimes not so much fun.. The whole house was easily disturbed if her bottle wasn't ready!

She truly is my sunshine mashaAllah! And it's quite easy to notice that she is the middle child. The syndrome is so clear.. She needs attention. After that some more attention. When she got that, she asks for a little attention. Etc. She needs to have more than others from everything! Alhamdulilah she is not that kind who keeps repeating about the same thing, once she sees no result she gives up.

She doesn't like dolls, she prefers soft toys. And she loves drawing so much! And she loves to help her mother, f that doesn't include cleaning up her own mess in her room! I can't believe that she is already going to pre-school in the autumn!
MashaAllah she is really a sweetheart.

Deena was only one year and 3 months and barely learned to walk before Nader was born. It was kind of hectic time in my life. My older kids were not much helping me anymore. Nadia had her own family and Laila, my granddaughter, was born already, and Amira was busy with school. Samuli spent all his time skateboarding.. I had my hands ful with laundry, cooking, cleaning.. Three small kids and teenagers.. SubhanaAllah I survived!

Nader was quite an easy baby. He didn't even co-sleep like the others, he learned to be in his own bed since he was little. I thought he will be a very easy toddler too, but little did I know..

I think first he followed Deena's behavior, but then he realized he can start something on his own. Before Nader I must say I didn't have much experience of tantrums. Almost all the kids have one sometimes, but none of my kids had had a real problem with it. But this boy.. SubhanaAllah he was only 7 months old when he showed it the first time! He was sitting in his high chair and I was feeding him. He wanted a spoon and when he didn't get it, he threw himself backwards almost out of the chair.. He shouted maybe 20 minutes.. That's when I knew I was in trouble..

Nader has got tantrums everywhere we go, and he still does it sometimes. Nothing helps. I've tried shouting, ignoring, taking his attention somewhere else, blackmailing, corruption, taking toy away, some charts and stuff.. Nothing helps. So I let him shout and show him he can't get his way, then after a while I ask if he wants a hug. If he does it's usually over, but if he doesn't I try again later. He is 4 years old now, he should be over it soon inshaAllah, isn't it?

Well.. Nader is not only a trouble maker. He is a very sweet boy, who loves hugs and kisses. He loves running games, action, and all kinds of sticks.. and Ninja Trutles, Spiderman and Batman. Often I spend time with him when the girls are busy with their own stuff. He seems to love his mom very much mashaAllah.

I told earlier that he was easy to put down to his own bed.. Well yeah.. He was - before he learned how to climb out of his crib when he was 1 year old. Since then he was practically co-sleeping and he would still like to be. I put him to his bed every night, but he is always next to me when i wake up. It's a bit annoying, but I know I will miss that some day.. Seems like he will be my last baby. I'd take one more though inshaAllah.

We're often busy with house work, cooking, cleaning, or some of our own stuff, but we should always remember that the kids are small for only a while. Little laundry, dishes or dust balls don't run away if we make them wait. They stay forever, but the kids don't. It's so easy to tell the child: ''I don't have time now''. I must admit I do it too often. My kids ask a lot, so sometimes i just have to. But I really try not to. Some day they may stop asking, or go ask someone or somewhere else.. I still remember the feeling when I was young myself, and tried to explain something important to my parents and they didn't listen.

That's why I try to give my kids as much time as possible. I love to do all kinds of things with them! Taking them out to play, long walks in the nature, taking them to different playgrounds etc.. It's fun to do some crafts with the kids, or play board games, or just be together doing nothing special! I hope they remember that some day and do the same to their own kids. And inshaAllah when we're old they will remember us and give us some of their time.

Children are such a blessing! MashaAllah!


  1. awww mashaAllah that was beautiful! Thanks for sharing that.. i really enjoyed reading it. You are a great mom and your kids will inshaAllah always know that :)

    mashaAllah @ your beautiful children! they are gorgeous!

  2. MashaAllah!!! That was a wonderful story to read <3 I love you all so much fisabillah xxx

  3. Asalamu aliaium,

    awwwwww, mashaAllah, I love how you wrote about each one of them. MashaAllah. It shows how you give them each their own attention :D MashaAllah at little Donjana loving her islamic and Arabic classes. Habibti!! :D

    And deena smiling at you :) I believe you! :D

    And I had to :O at little nader learing to climb out of his crib at only one years old. But how sweeet that he spends time with you alone :D MashaAllah.

    INshaAllah his little tantrums will stop. I really admire you for 'the hug option'. I'll try to keep it in my mind, myself, inshaAllah.

    I aboslutley love the advice you wrote in the end. It's so true, SubhanAllah. Some day, the house will be strangely quiet and organized-- and the mother will wish that there was a mess and laundry and dishes to do. Some day, parents will wish they could go out with the kids to the park but they'll be too busy, living their own lives...

    I love how you do so many activities with them and how you keep in mind how you used to feel. So important.

    Love ya,
    p.s. my twin also really admires you- she always tells me 'your friend tiina's put up crafty things again or has taken the kids out again, mashaAllah'. She thinks it's wonderful all that you do :)

  4. jazakallahu khir yall! ♥

    Amina, you made me blush.. i don't know if i deserve all those lovely words.. there's also not-so-good days, you know? days that i don't give my time, shout at the kids etc..:/
    but alhamdulilah for every day anyway!
    and tell your sis to come over and read too if she wants.

    love ya all ♥

  5. wowwww I loved it.. perfectly written.. mashaAllah sooo soo sweeet to read about everyone.. Tiina,, you really know, you really are wonderful mom mashaAllah.. and I am sure your kids will remember all what you did for them. They will always tell the stories of their life to their friends, when they were kids..
    I know this, as I and my siblings always remember our good moments we had as a family and share with others..
    mashaAllah that's sooo amazing.. :D you are a Model Mom I would love to be :D

  6. tiina, I am a big cry baby today. I cried when I read this. You described your feelings so nicely. Masha'a'Allah. I really enjoyed this post. Masha'a'Allah. Alhamdulilah! kids are such a beautiful blessing. Y'all are always in my prayers and thoughts!!!!! :wub: love y'all so much!

  7. aaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww mashaAllah that is so sweeeeeeeeeeet <3 I looove this post, it was so wonderful hearing about your children, mashaAllah they are so adorable <3

  8. Oh gosh Tiina I think you really put into words exactly the way I feel. I sometimes am soooo overly frustrated but then I think OMG they are just babies still. One day they aren't going to want to be hanging onto mommy nor will they want all the kisses and hugs. You are right, we all have days we shout and have too much to do but somehow we have to find time out to spend on our kids without fighting them. I hope I can remember this everyday inshaAllah. Some days are just so dang difficult. :P Alhamdulilah for my sons though. I don't know how I could live without them now.

    LOVE YOU TIINA! InshaAllah I can call you again soon.

  9. I just LOVED this post!! Loved it soo muchhh!! Soo beautiful how you described each one of them. I ditto what Amina said on how her twin admires you, I really do too!! I know everyday can't be a good day but I really love the way you spend time with the kids..

    Soo cute how you ask nader if he wants a hug *wub*

    This paragraph made me smile with tears:

    We're often busy with house work, cooking, cleaning, or some of our own stuff, but we should always remember that the kids are small for only a while. Little laundry, dishes or dust balls don't run away if we make them wait. They stay forever, but the kids don't. It's so easy to tell the child: ''I don't have time now''.

    ^^ awww soo beautifully said and so true! How many things in our life can really wait but we focus on them more and forget to do the things that we may not get a chance to after a while. I never thought of it this way. mashaAllah! Jazakillahu kheiran for this

    Loving your blog mashaAllah. May Allah bless you and your family with Iman, happiness and peace and may He Guide you on the Straight Path always *wub*


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